Women need choices.

It’s a sad year for my country. Other than the typhoons that came to destroy us, the lack of political will plagues us. A few minutes ago, I saw a friend post about the state of the Reproductive Health Bill and I couldn’t help but sigh. Another roadblock yet again in our political landscape and another reason why the upcoming elections are such a pain in the ass for me. Why are our candidates suddenly shy or silent in front of a clergy that they perceive to be vote mills? Don’t they know that our people are smart enough to separate the grain from the chaff? We know what we want and what we need. I just wish people would fight for us they way they often pledge to do so that we might move forward.

A few nights ago, I watched a woman roam the streets of Brazil handing out condoms and encouraging people to practice safe sex if ever they end up in someone’s bed. Last night, while watching reruns of Glee, Rachel made a good point in that Celibacy Club meeting–our best chance is to stay protected because there’s just too much pressure out there to procreate anyway and don’t tell me you haven’t felt it because I’ll know right away that that’s a lie. Sex is everywhere and I worry about this constantly because I have nephews and nieces who’ll need a talking to someday and I definitely want to be prepared and available when they do. Mostly, I just want them to grow up knowing that they have choices.

Everyone criticizes me for saying this but it simply must be said: People cannot act truthfully and purposefully as human beings if they aren’t completely free to do so and if they don’t have the choices. We cannot settle for “this” or nothing. Freedom doesn’t work that way and if we are truly to espouse democracy as our guiding ideology then there has to be room for information and choices. I believe that if our people had the choices available to them, a greater number would respond positively and responsibly.

All I ask from our lawmakers is the chance to see us act responsibly and the more I see progress hindered, the stronger my conviction on the matter grows. I am a Catholic but a woman first and foremost and without my biological nature, my faith wouldn’t mean much. It’s precisely this state of being corporeal that allows me to choose my faith and live it. Luckily, bill or no bill, I received the adequate information about my sexuality from my teachers and the books they let me read. I was informed about contraceptives as soon as I could spell the word and i have never been ashamed to talk about sex. Choice and being around supportive people allow us the opportunity to look beyond the surface and delve deeper into the meaning of sex. Without this environment I would have settled and lost my virginity without a care, gambling away my freedom with it. But I didn’t and that should say something about people with choices.

Everyday, I have a choice and I am thankful for it but today I can’t help but worry about women in my country. There are women who don’t have a choice and women who are too young to be forced to make decisions they don’t understand because of actions they haven’t properly been informed about. What about them? Are we so handicapped to think about them? Is this not the perfect time to make our voices count?

I haven’t lost faith yet because there are still people out there fighting for our right to choose. If you believe in this as much as I do, please hold on, keep fighting and pass the message.

6 thoughts on “Women need choices.

  1. I wholeheartedly agree–“People cannot act truthfully and purposefully as human beings if they aren’t completely free to do so and if they don’t have the choices. We cannot settle for ‘this’ or nothing.”

    The Philippines has no good excuse to keep outlawing contraception in this day and age. I got into a conversation with a friend about this the other day, and he said the reason contraceptives are banned in the Church is because they encourage sex for the wrong motivations. But how different are the motivations for trying to follow the “natural method” and using a condom for protection?

  2. Ailen says:

    I am a Catholic but a woman first and foremost and without my biological nature, my faith wouldn’t mean much. It’s precisely this state of being corporeal that allows me to choose my faith and live it.

    oh, nash, this was right on target. i hope more people realize this.

  3. Catherine says:

    I’ve been involved in poverty alleviation projects for 14 years now, this is what I realized…

    RH Bill wont solve poverty and it never will. What made me say that? Because precisely it was not designed to solve poverty in the first place.

    Allow me to lay out my findings and recommendations:

    RH Bill was not designed to educate and equip people with the knowledge and skills to qualify them to get a job and earn a living. For people to alleviate themselves and their families from poverty, they need to earn a living. No amount of contraceptives can empower them to get a job. Worse, they will even get the side effects of these pills. Not only will they not have the means to keep themselves healthy, they also don’t have the means to get a cure. What we need is affordable but high quality education to qualify them to get a job. If we want to help the poor people, we have to invest on education. Give fundings to vocational and technical skills institutions so that in a short period of time they can already get a good employment.

    Two, it wont feed hungry stomachs. What will they do with a bunch of pills if they don’t have food to take even for just a single meal? They might not have any children because of the contraceptives, but they will also remain famished without any energy to get some work done and can even lead to losing their minds. We need to have a broader solution to hunger through affordable cost of basic goods.

    Three, families living in shanties are hanging on mere survival. You see them at the side of the creek. They are under the bridge. They are beside a garbage dump. We should not simplify the problem by saying that they are just too many poor people that is why they are bursting in the society’s seems. The problem persists because we, who are capable of analyzing and solving a problem, had failed to make them benefit from our acclaimed expertise.

    Let us get things straight. RH Bill is not designed to solve poverty. It is simply wired to emulate unrestrained sexual urges devoid of pregnancy consequence. And what help did that give to a nation with dwindling educated population, increase of hungry people and millions that are homeless? Simply nothing. And that would be a waste of precious money.

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